Bike tour

We rented bikes and spent a couple hours riding in Golden Gate Park, which is mostly closed to traffic on Sundays. What a great time! We all enjoyed it so much.

We started up on Haight Street, cruised past the Conservatory, wound around the museums, and zipped all the way down to the polo fields, where the boys did laps around the cycling track. I used to run around the dirt path when I was in track in middle school, with my running buddy Jocelyn. I wonder where she is now.

We saw a bunny. This bunny was extremely tame and looked suspiciously fat and domestic to us.

Our turnaround point was Spreckels Lake, which is right near the house where Selena lived when she and I were in middle school. There has always been a community of model boat sailors there, and their boats were pretty fun. One was a miniature steamboat that puffed steam and made noises.

Memory day

We spent an afternoon revisiting my San Francisco memory places: dim sum on Clement street, Dad's former apartment (only from the outside), donuts at his favorite donut shop, Mom’s memorial bench in Golden Gate Park, and a walk around Stowe lake. Here we are at Mom’s bench, then at Stowe Lake.

Dad loved Stowe Lake and walked around it a few times a week. The boys decided to go on a pedal boat, and they had a wonderful time.

They chased a duck, who kept the same distance from the boat at all times. My theory is that the duck was amusing himself by leading them around.

Ocean Beach

Our kids love the sand. We spent a couple hours at Ocean Beach letting them have their fill.

The rest of us hung out on the street overlooking the beach, keeping the sand out of our shoes.

Golf

Jes, who adores golf, took the boys out for some driving and putting at a range near Lake Merced. Jordan enjoyed it a lot and seems to have a natural ability; he frequently hits the ball, which is unusual for a beginner. 

Aaron was thrilled that Jes managed to borrow clubs his size from a friend so that he could participate as well.

Elephant seals

We are having a terrific San Francisco visit with Jes and Deena. We did something this year that none of us had ever done before, which is to drive up to Point Reyes to see the elephant seals. It’s a two-hour drive, which we unfortunately made a lot longer by trying to go to Muir Woods on the way… there was literally no parking, and we had to just leave. I’m glad they’ll be starting a shuttle system in January.

Once we finally got there the elephant seals were pretty awesome. Here's a number of them on the beach.

There was a newborn pup, which appears in this picture as a dark blob down by its mother's tail. This baby was less than 24 hours old and was working very hard to nurse; its mother was making it inconvenient. I learned that baby elephant seals take months to learn to swim, so a sheltered beach is essential; if they are washed out with the tide, they drown. Oh no! They are also sometimes crushed by the big males, who pay no attention to them as they galumph around fighting with other males. More often, though, they just get kind of splooshed into the sand by all the blubber, and aren't harmed.

It was also a beautiful drive, with gorgeous views of the northern California coast. We must have seen a dozen eagles.

Here's what the eagles saw.

On the way back, we paused at a rocky viewpoint for some Last Jedi photography.

Tough week

A couple weeks ago, when I was backing out of my parking spot at work, I heard a horrendous crunching-metal sound. There were no other cars around. I got out and found that the front under-bumper had caught on the curb; in backing up, I ripped the whole front piece of the car halfway off. Whaaat? How does that even happen? Parts of the innards of the bumper actually fell out on the ground. I put them in the trunk, checked that the front bumper wasn't going to fall off while I drove it, and went on my way. We had it fixed within a few days, during which time Dale learned that there is a very good express bus from our house to his work. Fortunately, the car was covered by comp, and it turned out to be a cheap repair - just reattaching a bunch of clips that had formerly attached the nosepiece to the rest of the car.

Then a few days later I hit my head really hard on a metal corner at forehead level in a parking garage. It was part of some kind of fan. 

It hurt so much! The boys did a concussion check on me ("What is your full name? Who is the president?") and I was cognitively unimpaired, so, okay. The garage was for the boys' dentist, who gave me a very helpful ice pack. I told the garage owners about this safety hazard.

I maintain that none of this was my fault. Still, it's the sort of stuff that happens when you are moving too fast, and I have tried to take it a little slower since then.

Haircuts

After Jordan's bar mitzvah I decided that I would let him take the lead in his hairstyle. I'll still offer him haircuts, but instead of saying "Haircut time, let's go," I am now saying, "I am making a haircut appointment for Aaron; would you like a haircut also?" The first time I asked the question this way, he said no. He likes his long bangs. That's fine with me. Here he is recently with a chicken.

Amusingly, I had a similar haircut when I was a couple years older than he is now. I found this cute photo. I would guess that I am sixteen here, and that that's my high school in the background, but I'm not sure.

In my opinion, hair is a wonderful canvas for self-expression. That black hair above is not my natural color; I used that to cover up a series of color experiments that started when I was fourteen or so. First I had short hair (what my grandmother lovingly called a "pixie cut"); then I had blunt-cut stripes in the back that alternated brown and blonde; then I bleached it very pale blonde and wore it messy and grew a braided tail, just like Aimee Mann in the Til Tuesday era. (I wish I had pictures of myself with blonde hair, but people just didn't take so many pictures then.) In art class, I realized that my bleached-to-death hair soaked up color like crazy, so I watercolored it in random rainbow hues. Then I dyed it a color that I hoped would be an elegant peacock blue, but turned out to be a ridiculous Smurf blue instead. I couldn't live with that for long, so I covered it up with black. Then I went into a less punk, more hippie phase, and just grew it out naturally for the next several years. Through all of this, my smart parents never said a word. In fact, they paid for all of it without saying a word, which I now think was wonderfully generous of them on both counts.

Aaron, meanwhile, still happily gets terrific haircuts from our regular stylist, Leslie. She is excellent and he looks great.

Aaron cooks

Vacation leisure + new cookbook = Aaron made his first deluxe lunch! Veggie quesadillas, fresh guacamole, deviled eggs, and crudités. Jordan helped a lot and I hardly did anything.

Thanksgiving chickens

We had Thanksgiving over at Kari and Danny's this year, and it was very nice as always. A highlight was the neighbor chickens, which needed care while we were there. These were the friendliest, tamest, most cuddly chickens any of us had ever met. They were so calm that you could walk right up and pet them. The boys learned how to hold them so that they would not flap their wings. Cousin Harry spoke conversationally to the chickens, which seemed to calm them even more.

Aaron was small enough to actually get into the chicken coop, which was useful for changing their water and so on. We wish we could visit these nice chickens all the time!

Fagin

We must have been three-quarters of the way through “Oliver!” when we got to one of Fagin’s dialogues, and I realized that there was vaguely klezmer-ish music playing in the background… and I finally put together that Fagin, the miserly old crook who exploits the pickpocketing boys, is Jewish! I was astonished, as were the kids. In subsequent research, I learned that Fagin is one of (Western) literature’s archetypal Jewish villains; I'm embarrassed to have gotten this far in life and only be learning this now, but what can you do. I also learned that the anti-Semitic content had been greatly toned down for this movie; the 1949 production (!) was protested in postwar Germany and banned in (brand-new) Israel because of the depiction of Fagin, and (thanks to the Anti-Defamation League and the New York Board of Rabbis) wasn’t released in the US until they cut out seven minutes’ worth of big-nosed profile shots. Look at the schnozz they pasted onto Alec Guinness!

Yowza. As I say, the version we saw toned down the Jewish content, but even this version had devil references. For example, here is Ron Moody threatening Oliver with a miniature pitchfork. 

The book apparently was recognized as grotesquely anti-semitic even at the time; a Jewish newspaper asked why "Jews alone should be excluded from the 'sympathizing heart' of this great author and powerful friend of the oppressed.” Dickens said he was just being realistic about the nature of street crime in that era, but he did revise the book to remove some of the offensive content, and wrote a sympathetic Jewish character into a later book. That’s good to know… but I think for family reading time, I will choose a different Dickens book.

Musicals

Over Thanksgiving break, I knew we were going to watch a number of family movies, and I decided we needed a theme. My choice was musicals, which was heartily approved by the others in the household. We started with “Into the Woods,” a terrific Sondheim mashup of various fairy-tales, with hilariously clever lyrics. We particularly enjoyed the badass Red Riding Hood, who is not only not traumatized by being eaten by the wolf, but subsequently makes his fur into a new cloak.

Next up was “Oliver!,” the 1968 movie version of Oliver Twist, which none of us had ever seen. I haven’t even read the book, though I think I saw a TV version as a kid. I was delighted to learn that it is the source of multiple songs that I have always known, such as “Food Glorious Food,” “Consider Yourself,” and “Oom-Pah-Pah.” There were multiple huge dance numbers with dozens or seemingly hundreds of people, and we observed that all the dance was ballet. The children had to have the child labor situation explained to them at some length because they had no idea of the conditions of the Industrial Revolution. We talked about how Dickens was a storyteller with a very strong social justice mission, who stuck up for the poor at a very tough time in history. (Though see other post.) I enjoyed the movie, but thought the character of Oliver was hardly a character at all, which didn’t seem fair for the first child protagonist in an English novel.

The next musical we watched was West Side Story, and wow, what a story. We were all enthralled. I remembered it was good, but it was just SO good. Aaron in particular was snapping his fingers for days. The dancing is fantastic – again, all ballet, and so very far removed from the mincing frippery that one can mistakenly associate with this dance form. I like showing Aaron dance that counters unfortunate gender stereotypes. We also had a good discussion about the fact that most of the actors were in “brownface” (they were white people depicting Puerto Rican people), with the exception of the inimitable Rita Moreno. She apparently recalls that the movie people even put brown makeup on her, because her skin color is lighter than they thought was typical for Puerto Ricans. 

Finally, on a night that Jordan and Dale were out, Aaron and I watched the movie of “Newsies.” Loved it! More discussion of child labor (in New York this time), along with a great talk about how a good writer can speak truth to power. Aaron identifies as a good writer (I agree) and he felt quite inspired about writers helping to solve problems in the world. The dance in this show was less ballet and more acrobatics, and a rip-roaring good time.